Lessons from the Journey: What I'd Tell My 20-Year-Old Self

Life has a funny way of teaching us its most valuable lessons through experience, often when we least expect them. Reflecting on my own journey, I've been incredibly fortunate to learn a tremendous amount from colleagues, mentors, and friends. Some of these insights I wish I'd grasped earlier, but that's simply part of the human adventure.

If I could turn back time and share some wisdom with my 20-year-old self, here are the seven essential tips I'd offer:

1. Embrace the Power of Silence

In a world that often prizes immediate responses, I'd tell my younger self to let silence do the heavy lifting. You don't need to have an instant answer for everything. Instead, let conversations and ideas sink in. Silence isn't a void; it's often pregnant with insights and allows for thoughtful consideration. Stepping back before reacting can lead to much richer and more effective contributions.

2. Trust Your Gut Instincts

Your intuition is a powerful compass. I'd urge my 20-year-old self to obey your gut instincts because they are almost always right. If something feels off, it usually is. That subtle nudge or uneasy feeling is your inner wisdom speaking. Learning to listen to and act on these instincts can save you from many missteps and guide you toward better decisions.

3. Be "Flawsome!"

Perfection is an illusion, and the pursuit of it can be exhausting. I'd encourage my younger self to be "Flawsome!" by embracing your flaws and recognizing that you are awesome with them. Lean into the vulnerability of not being perfect; absolutely nothing is. Your unique quirks and imperfections are part of what makes you, you. Authentic self-acceptance is incredibly liberating.

4. Guard Your Inner Spark

Your enthusiasm, curiosity, and gracious nature are incredible assets. I'd warn my younger self to not let others tamp down your enthusiasm, curiosity, and gracious nature. These qualities are fuel for innovation and connection. At the same time, it's crucial to learn to set boundaries and not let others take advantage of that either. As Ralph Waldo Emerson wisely put it, "Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm." Protect that flame.

5. Own Your Space

Confidence isn't about arrogance; it's about recognizing your worth. I'd emphatically tell my 20-year-old self to be strong and own your space. Don't allow anyone to make you feel "less than" or diminish your contributions. You have valuable perspectives and capabilities. Remind yourself, "You have this!" and carry that conviction into every room you enter.

6. Celebrate Every Victory

We often focus on what's next or what's not yet done, overlooking the progress we've made. I'd advise my younger self to celebrate your victories and small wins MUCH more often. Don't downplay your accomplishments or wave away compliments. When someone offers praise, practice simply saying, "Yes, thank you so much." Acknowledging your achievements reinforces your value and builds positive momentum.

7. Find the "Gold Nugget" in Bad Experiences

Life will inevitably present challenges. I'd teach my younger self that seemingly bad experiences are often the best learning opportunities. Instead of dwelling on the negativity, dig deep to discover what you can do to adjust your perception, your attitude, and your self-talk. There's almost always a reason you're going through a particular experience, so take the time to unearth that "gold nugget" lesson it holds. These are often the experiences that shape you the most.

These are not just tips for your 20s, but timeless principles that continue to guide me. What lessons have you learned on your journey that you'd share with your younger self?

By Angie Janko, COO of GSD Coach & Recruiting, helping SaaS founders build A-Player revenue teams. Fast.